and MS doesn't always play Fair! <fact>

You may well be feeling that you've been cheated of life in some way and that it wasn't supposed to be like this. You may feel that MS is destroying you at a very deep level, chipping away bit by bit at the foundations of who you believe you are. You may feel like you can't cope with this new and different life and that Life will never be the same again so what's the point?

However MS can be a very restrictive and destructive illness so it is in your BEST INTEREST TO FACE RIGHT UP TO IT & TAKE CHARGE!

Let's call MS a him for a moment. Look him right in the eye and tell him what you think of him, and how you plan to explore every Avenue fight to HOOK LINE AND SINKER tio keep him at bay. The first step in learning to live with this "Uninvited Guest" at your Party, is to FACE HIM and give himWHAT FOR! Do not let him BULLY YOU! TELL HIM WHO'S BOSS!

In order to do this you must first realise a couple of important things:

1. LIFE ISN'T FAIR <fact>
2. MS can be a BULLY who doesn't play fair either

Until you Accept these FACTS it is very difficult to move forward! You will be stuck feeling angry, bitter, depressed and disillusioned with Life. If you are not careful you may lose Interest in the Future completely and in Time you my lose the Will to Live. This you cannot afford to do! You must stay vigilant at all times! Don't let him rule your life. Don't let him Run Riot. Mentally you must stay STRONG and FOCUSED!

If you don't the results can be very detrimental. If you lose the will to live you are leaving the door wide open to MS, instead of using your energy to search for ways to block MS's path and shut that damn door?

You can have as many tantrums as you like about it, but sadly that won't change anything. Sulking in a corner will not bring great people or great opportunites into your life which YOU WILL NEED. Feeling sorry for yourself for too long is not very attractive at the end of the day and the people around with you will soon get bored of it! I am sure you would agree? Sulking in a corner will get boring for you too after a time! Yet some people never move forward from thispPoint!

Unfortunately we are adults living in a very real and sometimes very harsh world and we have to face it and count our blessings. There will always be many people far, far worse off than you. We have to learn to work with what we HAVE GOT and WHAT WE CAN DO. Otherwise you are heading for a miserable existence, largely of your own making!

It is all relative and it's up to you how you view the glass: HALF FULL or HALF EMPTY? The choice is yours. You can fosus on your losses, and what you can't do anymore, or you can channel your energy into goals you wish to achieve. Above all never give up on your Dreams!

Many times people have to learn the hard way. They think life is pretty bad and then MS makes it really really awful and suddenly they realise just how lucky they were and they have a fight on their hands to salvage their lives. Suddenly they are prepared to do whatever it takes but often by then the battle has become all the more difficult.

It is really far better to face up to your current situation and symptoms right now and start taking action on all levels, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually to address them, before you end up falling into an even deeper pit. Don't wait till you are desperate to do whatever it takes. Start searching, learning and getting to grips with this "Uninvited Guest" right now. He's here to stay so you may as well make him feel welcome. He will cause you a lot less Trouble that way!

Time can be wasted being 'mad' and being 'sad' and let's face it, somedays we all need a good cry about everything, but the real point is that it makes no difference to MS how much we yell and scream about him at the end of the day There are no two ways about it MS can be a b****** and MS does play by his own rules and we must BE PREPARED for this.

It is no good whatsoever thinking what might have been had you not developed MS. It is a lot better to focus on the Gifts MS is offering you, whatever they may be (It may take time to work this one out..).

Maybe MS is ensuring you slow down?
Maybe MS is making you appreciate life more?
Maybe MS is helping you to stand up for yourself at long last?
Maybe MS is teaching you about what is important in life?
Maybe MS is showing you who your real friends are?
Maybe MS is encouraging you to GET ON & LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL?

MS though DIFFICULT, may be teaching you one hell of a lot of things you don't even realise and may well make you A STRONGER PERSON IN THE END.

Lots of people get MS (1 in 700 women and 1 in 1200 men)- Shit Happens - and LIFE GOES ON. You will have to GET OVER IT at some point. Life may never be the same but that doesn't mean it won't be as good! It may even be better in some ways. You never know!

So give MS a Name, call it what you like: your uninvited Guest. your Alien, your Monster, your Shadow, your rampant troublesome Moose, your Naughty child. Then tell it you are not going to Give In so Easily, don't let it Bully you into submission, tell it calmly, gently but firmly that you'll be no pushover and that you will make sure you give it a damn good run for it's money!

Although MS will always have a few tricks up it's sleeve, no matter how much you try and how much you do to combat him (that's the nature of the Beast!), you can stay VIGILANT AND READY FOR ACTION!. Like a naughty child MS has a tendency to cause trouble, and shouting and yelling at him won't help. You will just do your Best to calm it down and coax it around in whatever way you can. You may even be able to Befriend it, though that may take a little longer!

Tell MS WHATEVER HAPPENS I'LL HANDLE IT and suddenly it will have far less power over you and will immediately feel far less of a threat to your Life!

OK so Life isn't Fair-Accept this fact and then get on with the job you know have to do- Tell MS YOU'RE GOING TO DO YOUR BEST LIVE YOUR LIFE ANYWAY! ABOVE ALL KEEP THE FAITH!

YOUR FUTURE IS STILL THERE FOR THE TAKING!

How do you view MS?

Please let me know the 'Name" you have given MS and how you live and deal with him or her?

The Gate-Crasher - By Greame from Scotland

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